Wedding Bells

One of the newer girls working here with us is getting married. I'm not sure when, but every time I see her in the break room, she's on the Internet looking up flowers and cakes and all things wedding related.

I remember those days, making phone calls and getting quotes and all the details and planning that goes into a wedding. And just now, I had a thought:

Why do we focus SO much on the big day itself, when it's the rest of your life with your spouse that really matters?

This July, Hubby and I will have been married for seven awesome years. Don't get me wrong--that was a very special and happy day for us both (not that he tells it like that, but he likes to push my buttons sometimes). Anyway, we had a nice ceremony, had lots of family and friends over, and the whole to-do was a happy affair.

Just the other day, I was steamed about a late fee I was going to have to pay at the daycare because I was a few minutes late picking up the kids. The whole situation was ridiculous, but in the end, we forked over $90 for being late twice due to traffic that was completely BEYOND MY CONTROL!! That being said, the director was not willing to try and help us with it (she's new and not my most favorite person, which is putting it mildly). By the time I got home and had dealt with the kids' whining and carrying on, I was close to tears.

I called the Hubs, and he was my voice of reason. After about five minutes of me blowing off steam and ranting and raving about the mean director, he calmly replied,

"Tell you what, just take off a little early when I'm not home, catch the earlier bus, and be done with it."

Well, alrighty then! I can do that. In fact, I had already thought about doing that, but it was just hearing it from him and the reassurance in his voice that I'm not a lousy mother for picking up the kids late, that calmed me and put things into perspective.

Clearly, I was overracting.

We'd met with a friend of his from way back this weekend, and even though Hubby likes to tease and play, in the end, he had nothing but nice things to say about married life. And I'll admit, I was pretty proud of us, too.

So now I quietly observe this young lady making all her wedding plans, and I think to myself that I hope she remembers it's not ALL about the wedding day, but the relationship that grows and builds from that day forward...

...for ever and ever, amen. :)